"Doing Relationships" RESCUE RADIO with Marjorie Cole

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Music.

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Rescue Radio, because there's a war for your soul. Yes, Father God,

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we thank you for the war being won.

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We thank you for your kingdom coming, your will be done, on earth,

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in and through us, as it's being done and declared in heaven.

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And we thank you, Father God, for the context of relationships that you have

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set us in to love you, to love ourselves, to love one another.

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And we thank you, Lord, for giving us now eyes to see, ears to hear,

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in a heart to be examined by your Holy Spirit,

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to let us come into a place of deeper understanding and satisfaction and holiness

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in our relationships with ourselves,

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with you, and with each other.

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I thank you, Jesus, that you died for us. You reestablished the connection that

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had been broken through sin, and you paid the price in full with your own blood.

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And we thank you that you still rule and reign as king.

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You were resurrected from the dead to bring justification and glorification

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and completion to your mission accomplished, Lord God.

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And we thank you for giving us power over all the power of the enemy,

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power to love, power to forgive, power to bind and loose, power to be who you've

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called us to be in the midst of this crooked and perverse generation.

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So I thank you, Father, for giving us now hope and resurrection and refreshing

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in our relationships that the enemy cannot bite, divide, devour, destroy, or deceive us,

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that we'd all rightly divide your holy word of truth, and that you give our

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minds and hearts a connection with our spirits, and your spirit bearing witness with our spirit today,

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to receive instruction through this time, Father, and bless each one who's listening,

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each one who's here, in Jesus' name. Amen.

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Well, we're going to be talking about a big subject today that really is almost

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inclusive in every subject and every situation we're ever in,

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and that is relationships.

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The Bible has a lot to say about relationships. And go ahead.

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Yeah, I'm going ahead, honey.

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Romans chapter 12. I just want to read these verses, and I'm just thinking about

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how many different relationships are included in this.

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Romans chapter 12, verse 9.

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Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil.

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Cling to what is good. Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly

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love in honor, giving preference to one another,

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not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord,

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rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer.

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Now, we get into more of the relationship parts here in verse 13.

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Distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality.

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Bless those who persecute you, bless and do not curse, rejoice with those who

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rejoice, and weep with those who weep,

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Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things,

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but associate with the humble.

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Do not be wise in your own opinion. Amen. Oh, repay no one evil for evil.

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Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible,

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as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.

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Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath,

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for it is written, vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.

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Therefore, if your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink.

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For in doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head.

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Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

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Amen. That pretty much says it all, doesn't it? It just covers almost every

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possible situation of relationships that we find ourselves in. Yeah.

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Well, today we're going to be talking and basing our comments and our thoughts

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out of the book, Doing Relationships God's Way.

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And it's very, I think it's very well written, actually. It's written by Marjorie

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Cole with the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

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I was rereading it myself and thought, wow, this is really good stuff.

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But anyway, let's talk first of all about the definition of a relationship.

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And a relationship is basically a connection, according to the dictionary,

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a significant connection or similarity between two or more things or state of

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being related to something else.

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Our connections with each other are formed, can be formed through words or deeds

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that are expressed. that express our feelings and our behaviors.

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So relationships can be established in various ways.

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Obviously, we are born into relationships, and then when we marry,

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there's another set of agreements we make, and that creates another set of relationships.

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There are covenants, there are words. Even outside of the context of birth and

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marriage, there are many relationships we have in the context of family or country

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or church or work or government.

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Everything is relationships and everything is connected. No man is an island.

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That's right. So life is actually full of relationships.

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And in effect, actually, you can't even define life without defining it in the

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context of relationships.

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Well, it's just like your body, you know, your physical body.

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It's the relationships between your lungs and your liver and your heart.

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Yeah, there's relationships there too.

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It's all about relationships. And if those relationships are off,

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if something isn't firing well or something's blocked here or there,

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and there's friction withheld,

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then the whole body breaks down.

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So, you know, Paul talks about the church, the followers of Jesus,

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as the body of Christ. And that's all about relationships. That's another context

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of relationships. It's all about relationships, yeah.

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Everything. And as you read in Romans there, you know, there's very many options in relationships.

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You can love, you can hate, you can go revengeful, whatever.

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In the basic healthy relationship, for example, just even the example of your

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body, your body has to submit to,

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honor, and supply to each member that which the other member has as a gift to

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give, whether it's oxygen or blood or nutrients and whatnot.

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And so that depends on, that'll determine the health of the body.

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So connections with people that we need to love and be loved, to know and be known.

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These are the bottom lines. Otherwise, we're going to feel alone,

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isolated, insignificant, unimportant.

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And ultimately, the enemy uses all of those thoughts to isolate and separate

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us from one another and then gets us to the place of even to the point of death and suicide.

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And so most of us, we can look at our life history.

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We're going to have been wounded and scarred by harmful relationships that have gone bad.

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Yeah, well, it's exactly right. Because, you know, a relationship can be meaningful.

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Supportive, satisfying, or it can also, because we're close,

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we become very vulnerable to being hurt, controlled, used, destroyed in those relationships.

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And I think more than anything else, relationships can be the place of our greatest

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joy and the place of our greatest pain, our greatest suffering.

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Exactly, exactly. So we have to, and you know, of course, God does not want

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us to live in that place of,

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of pain and isolation and rejection, he wants us to find a way to be loved and

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to love, to experience the love of God, even through our relationships with one another.

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Well, our relationships with one another, basically, what about our relationship with ourself?

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Well, everything starts, comes out of it, absolutely.

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If you don't have a, whatever relationship you... How are you getting along with yourself?

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You know, when I was going to write this book back in the day,

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And I was driving down the road on Highway 65, going to work one morning,

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and I was thinking about this book, Doing Relationships God's Way.

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And the Lord just popped into my mind in the middle of this rush hour traffic.

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The first relationship, the most important relationship, and out of the relationship

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you have with yourself come every other relationship.

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Every other relationship comes through the relationship you have with yourself.

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How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as good, peaceful, kind, loved?

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Do you see yourself as anxious and striving to be, to perform, to do?

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How do you see yourself? And it's out of that context of how I see myself in

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my relationship with myself. And I don't know if we actually even always think

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about the relationship we have with ourselves, although that is a constant unspoken in our lives.

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Everything comes out of your mouth, the way you perceive things,

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the way you treat other Your people, your goals, aspirations,

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everything, your relationship, even your relationship with God comes out of

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the relationship you have with yourself.

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One of the bottom line things that we've heard with people.

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Over the years is that the feeling of unworthiness. I am not worthy.

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I'm not worthy to be healed.

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I'm not worthy for this. I'm not worthy to be loved by God. Or God's mad at

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me, yeah. I'm just not worthy. And that's a bottom line.

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Lie. Where does that come from? Well, it comes from the enemy,

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of course, because we have to put our relationships also in the context of spiritual warfare.

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Everything we do and live in this planet, there's an opposing force to life.

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And that is death and that is the lie and that is

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it opposes the truth so in that context where

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does this come from i'm not good and i'm not worthy it comes from the jealousy

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of satan because he was beyond livid when god decided he was going to make man

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create man in his image and likeness because god had already created a lot of

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things the animals and the atmosphere and the the the earth sees all of it was already created.

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And then God said, like as an afterthought, let us make man in our image.

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And I think the reason he did that, at least the reason he's given me to understand

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that, is that he was looking for fellowship.

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He was looking for relationships. And you can have a relationship with,

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you can even have a relationship with a rock if you want to,

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I guess, but you're going to do all the talking.

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But anyway, but God wanted a relationship with people that were of the That's

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why he put his spirit in us so that he could communicate spirit to spirit and

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we would understand him.

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So we had the same language, the language of the spirit of God.

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So he created us in his own image and likeness.

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So he created, he formed a man.

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He formed man out of the dust of the earth. Made him like himself, yeah.

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Made him like himself with a spirit, soul, and body.

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And so that relationship, and of course, that's the relationship. Of love.

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Of love that has been violated so much. And that's what sin did.

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Sin brought separation and it just drove a wedge in, a wall put up between a

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direct relationship with the living God.

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And so then we'll find that messes up our relationship with ourselves.

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It messes up our relationships with others.

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We see that in Genesis chapter 3.

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Well, it all started in Genesis, as you said. And the enemy,

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because he was very jealous and very put out, he decided that he was going to separate.

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God's one thing that God wants. You know, he can have everything and anything he wants.

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But he wanted love. He wanted to be loved and to have that relationship.

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Of love, you have to remove the element of coercion.

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You have to remove the element of intimidation and force.

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You have to—love is freely given.

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And so he allowed—he had to create us with the free will to choose to love or

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not love, to receive or not receive, to believe or not believe him.

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And so he put himself in a very vulnerable position, God did,

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when he opened the doors to us having the opportunity to exercise our free will,

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especially after Adam and Eve chose to believe the lie,

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eat from the forbidden tree of the knowledge of good and evil,

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and evil was introduced into the world.

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So now, God is always held in—there's always a context of confusion and choice

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that we're in to whether we're going to believe God or not.

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Because he is the God of this world and the prince of the power of the air,

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he pretty much runs everything that he can to destroy and deceive and separate us from God.

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One of the things that happens, though, is that we get locked into patterns

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of behavior that affect our relationships.

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In other words, patterns of behavior in relationships from our past,

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generations past, even past that we don't even know about, are affecting us today. Absolutely.

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I see that all the time. I see that every day I talk to people.

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So many of the people I talk to, they're calming and calling and counseling

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because of broken relationships. I think that the number one problem isn't,

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you know, isn't even a health issue.

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I think the health issues come out of the first heart breaks our broken relationships,

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and then the heart itself begins to struggle and the body physically follows.

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But the patterns are crazy, and people don't even look at them because we have

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this idea, this false notion that, oh, we're saved, everything's good,

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it's all under the blood, There's no problems here.

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Just go forward, you know, in this la-la land of everything is fine. And it's not.

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And even after we're saved, those patterns of generational agreements can still and are still exist.

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Operating in the context of determining, shaping the course of those relationships.

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I see so many parents call and their number one sadness, sorrow,

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grief, reason for calling is because of their isolation, separation,

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rejection of their children by their children who rejected them or refused them.

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And sometimes they have the children come and they're suffering from the things their parents it.

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Obviously, it goes both ways, but it's always about bottom line.

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Broken relationships, and they're coming as patterns.

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I see that, like, for example, if the mother rejects her daughter,

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then the daughter rejects her daughter.

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Then there's a twist, and so the granddaughter is loved by the grandmother and

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not the mother, and so the mother then becomes jealous of her daughter because

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her mother loves the grandchild more than she loves her, or at least she perceives that to be the case.

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So then the grandchild is now living up under this spirit of witchcraft and

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jealousy and bitterness and rejection, and so becomes insecure.

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And then you go back to what's wrong with me. There must be something wrong

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with me because, you know, or they learn to be quiet or they learn to be isolated or not share.

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So many kids in a dangerous situation growing up will opt for being quiet.

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Staying out of the way, don't say anything.

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And because they don't say anything, they don't learn anything about themselves

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and they just observe everything around them and they're taking into context

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everything that's going wrong and they're thinking, it's my fault,

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I should be fixing this. And that's a lot of children.

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They want to fix their parents who are not being parents, who are neglecting

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them, who are drinking, who are carrying on.

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And it may be something, you know, whatever the demands are that they perceive

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coming through their parents, the child is going to try to fix that.

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And when they're trying to fix it and it doesn't get fixed and I can't make

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mom happy and she doesn't want to parent me and dad is gone and he left and

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he didn't leave any, you know, forwarding address and I don't get to see him anymore.

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The child is absolutely going to take it as there's something I did wrong.

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A lot of us then are, or basically all of us, are kind of, so we're locked into

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a preset program of this is how we're going to operate.

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You know, whether you realize it or not, you're going to, it's a rut.

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It's a rut that you're going to just slip into right from the beginning of your life. Absolutely.

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It's even before you take a step onto the earth, you know, there's a priest

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that already, the enemy's already working on it.

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That's what I'm saying, yeah. But the Bible says in Ephesians 6,

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12, we do not wrestle against flesh and blood.

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So really, we think flesh and blood are our enemies, our parents,

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our grandparents, the boss, whatever.

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But really, the evil that's coming through them is from a spiritual source of

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bitterness and hatred between God and Satan.

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But we don't realize that. We don't take it that deep. We just say,

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well, we believe the lie.

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There's something I need to do different. So, or there's something wrong with them.

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So, the peace, the unity, the peace, the love, the wanting to love is dangerous to love.

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It makes us vulnerable to being rejected. So people just opt to take the shortcut

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and say, you know, I'm going to reject you before you reject me.

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I'm not going to be available to love you.

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So then fear comes in, and fear blocks the receptor sites for love.

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What about blame? We always got to find somebody to blame for the way we are.

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And in a sense, you could understand part of that. Why is a child in the same

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rebellious pattern as their parents?

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Well, yeah, it could be, well, it's the parents' fault that brought this on to the child.

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But then we can't be at the place, and some people just spend their whole life

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blaming somebody else for their own problems.

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We always got to find the guilty party, and the guilty party is not us.

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It's always somebody else.

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Well, you know. the thinking of a lot of people yeah blaming other

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people why is that well because our basic

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three the the three primary colors that color our world you know in the in the

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natural are red yellow and blue red yellow and blue there are three primary

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issues that we have to resolve and.

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Overcome in our relationships, in our being on this planet, because the planet is hostile.

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The three things are safety, righteousness, and responsibility.

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And you talked about blaming.

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So when you have, for example, if you mix red and yellow and blue in their various

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combinations, you can get any other of the color combinations.

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Just depends on how much red, how much blue.

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So how much is your life involved in trying to establish and secure your safety,

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you know, so that I will survive and not be picked on and bullied and whatnot,

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all that entails so I can survive.

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What do I have to do to survive? What do I have to do to provide for myself what I need?

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So safety is number one. So we could call that color red, for example.

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And the second one is righteousness. business, what do I have to do to be okay,

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to be okay with God, to be at peace with others?

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How do I prove I'm good and good enough to get set, to go to heaven?

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And the third one is responsibility. Who's to blame? Who did it?

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And so when you color these three things together, you can get any number of

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emotional combinations, diagnoses, difficulties, scenarios.

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Well, one of the things that I think we struggle with is that we have this sense

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that there's something wrong with me.

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There's something wrong with me. Yeah, exactly.

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And so, yeah, we tend to sin. But who sets up that lie? Who starts that lie?

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It is started by the insecurity of Satan.

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He is very insecure. He's very jealous. He's very displaced.

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He doesn't like himself. He doesn't like where he's going to end up.

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He's very, you know, he's destroyed.

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He is already destroyed, but he doesn't want to admit that yet.

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And he wants to get as much, get even with God as much as possible.

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But it all starts with him infusing these lies that have come through the patterns,

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that have come through the generations, that have come through the agreements

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that we have made with sin and idolatry. The very first commandment.

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I mean, everything is connected and everything goes back to his basic starting point.

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God said, thou shall have no other gods before me.

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So when God said that, he wasn't saying that because he was insecure and he

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just had to have everything for himself.

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He was saying that because he isn't partial.

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And he knows that the devil, if you start worshiping the devil,

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following the devil, listening to the devil, getting your solutions from the

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devil, he sets up the problem and he gives you solutions and now you're in a double bind.

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So you take those solutions from the devil. You're starting to believe the lie,

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make agreements with the devil, worship the devil. And when you worship the

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devil or demons or idols or whatever, they're all the same thing.

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When you start worshiping, giving them permission, giving them power,

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giving them worship, then you're also giving them permission to mingle,

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mess with, interfere with your life.

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And that is where we all have to go back to repentance and confession.

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God, forgive me. Forgive my generation.

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If you're having problems with those patterns in your relationships with other

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people, and you don't know what to do and where to start, go back to the place

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where God first shows you there was a crime committed.

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Now, you don't know what went on 10 generations ago, maybe unless you're descendant

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of some royalty somewhere, and you know that you're related to Henry VIII or

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Mary, Queen of Scots. or whatever all those crimes were.

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If you don't know that, you still know back a generation or two,

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usually, unless you're adopted, unless you're just plucked up and totally set

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into another whole predicament and you have no idea, no clue of where you came from.

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So usually you can look at this and you can say, okay, I can see the crimes, the bitterness.

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Think about it, just write down the things that happened in your relationships,

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in your past with your mom, your dad, your grandparents, how they treated one another.

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Was there sexual assault? Was there incest? Was there sibling rivalry? Was there jealousy?

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Was there, you know, provoking? And was there performances? Was there religious expectations?

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Did people betray? Was there divorce? All of these things, all of these things

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are the evidence of crimes that have been committed by the enemy and of lies

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that have been believed by the enemy.

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So those crimes, in a sense, were victims of those crimes.

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Right. Right. We're victims of the crimes, but at the same time,

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we have the authorization, because we were victims of the crime,

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to bring that crime to the court of heaven.

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So, you know what you can say and you can do is, Lord, God, I'm coming to the

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court of heaven as the authorized representative of my bloodlines to confess

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the divorce, the abandonment, the neglect, the bitterness, the rejection.

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The rejection that happened to me, that's happening to my children,

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the pattern of my children rejecting me, the pattern of my mom and dad splitting,

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the adultery, the fornication, the cheating, the alcoholism, the drugs.

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No end to the ways that Satan can

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jab that ice pick into our generational bloodlines to try to destroy us.

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So those patterns can be broken.

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Yes. We have the authority to break those patterns. Behold, all things become

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new. And stop that pattern. But.

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But what? But we have to do it the way the Lord God says to do it.

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How does he say to do it? Well, first of all, we have to identify the problem, identify the crimes.

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I will use the word crimes because there was insensitivities.

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And some of these patterns are very subtle. Sometimes it's not,

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you know, murder or suicide or bloodshed or car accidents that's so obvious.

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Is sometimes it's very subtle, and it's just the way we, you know,

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the expectations, the unspoken things we expect from other people, whether it's like, say,

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performance, or you gotta be perfect, or you gotta make me look good,

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or you, you know, whatever all that is, sit up straight in church and don't

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ask any questions and shut your mouth, children are seen and not heard,

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all of these kinds of little things.

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That go on to make these crimes. Because when you're a child, you're like wet cement.

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You just pour the cement, and you know that you can make any number of impressions,

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good or bad, in that wet cement before it dries. And these are what children

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are. They're like on the potter's wheel.

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They're just like little tiny, you know, vessels being formed on the potter's wheel.

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And the devil keeps sticking his stick in as this little cup spins around,

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this little vessel goes around, to mar and to defile and to somehow wreck God's

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creation so that God will be deprived of his one desire,

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and that is to be loved and to love us back.

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So in all of this, there's one constant in all of this, the thing that does

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not change, and that is God's love for us.

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God never stops loving us.

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Just because you screw up and bite the hook and believe the lie and swim in

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the other opposite direction of God for 20 years of your life doesn't mean God

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is giving up on you. God always loves us.

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There's a difference, however, between you loving your child and blessing your child.

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We will love our children basically through thick and thin, good and bad,

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but we can't bless everything they do because we don't want to train them to

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do the wrong things over the course of time.

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Talk to me about, let's talk about the people who are very secure.

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It seems like it's a rarity that are people who are really, really secure in themselves.

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They're just at peace. They have joy. They have a sense of wholeness.

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They have a sense of dignity, if it were, if we may say it that way,

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that, you know, I'm okay.

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And it's not a denial, as you're saying. You find people that are just okay with being okay.

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They're imperfect, but yet they're not in the place of, you know,

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I'm just living with this whole, haunted by all my faults and all my failures

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and all my attitude about myself and the lies of the enemy.

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Are there folks, I mean, who are the ones that are living in a secure sense

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of wellness, well-being?

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You know, it seems like those are really rare birds.

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They are. They are very rare because most people are, you know,

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still trying to manage their environment, making people do what they want,

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controlling people. because they're insecure, they're fearful,

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and they think, well, if I can get everybody else to do what I want,

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then I'll have what I need, and then I'll be okay.

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So a lot of people still run their lives from...

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Trying to manage the things going on outside of them. However,

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the people who have learned to allow the Lord to guide them and manage the things

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on the inside, to know that they are loved, to know that they're good,

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not perfect, but I'm following Jesus.

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He is perfecting that, which concerns me. And they have learned to rest.

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Now, most people that are walking in the Gospels, following Jesus,

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going to church, reading their Bibles, even praying, they're still living in

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the context of a false gospel because they really still think it's about them

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performing and that they're going to be judged on their behavior.

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And God doesn't, you know, what does a parent want? It's not this complicated, that complicated.

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What does a parent want? What do you want? Do you want a perfect child,

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a perfect behavior, perfect scores on every test and every meet,

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you know, every swim meet and everything they do?

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Perfect scores. Or do you want a relationship with them that's open and delightful

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and they're free to talk with you, you're free to talk with them,

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and you're exchanging information and love and teaching them,

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and they're growing, and they're believing you and trusting you.

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That rest relationship, that place of peace where there's no fear,

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it's perfect love casts out fear, conspirates torment.

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So that place of love is a place of learning. It's a place of resting.

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And it's a place of being okay with being okay, even though everything out there is not okay.

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Because everything out there is not going to be okay until we get to heaven.

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And some of us think we got to wait to get to heaven to be okay.

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You can't because this world, this situation, the crises demand that we know

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who we are in our relationship with ourselves, in our relationship with God,

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and then it comes through to our relationships with other people.

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Let's talk a little bit about parents that are putting incredible pressures

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on their children to perform.

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Well, this means that the parent himself is very insecure and very driven and

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still very religious in their ideas or understandings of who God is, God created us to be.

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And it's out of being and abiding comes the doing.

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In the world of context is you have to do to be. You have to do this,

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go to school, get a good education, incur a great debt,

00:29:45.148 --> 00:29:48.208
find a good job, a good paying job so you can be a little worker bee for the

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rest of your unretired life, and then you retire, look for, you know,

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20 minutes when you can do what you want to do, but you've spent your whole life doing to be.

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Their goal, that shiny object on the end of the hook is the retirement now,

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but you know what? You can't live to wait to live.

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You have to live every day today.

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You have to live today with, you know, and being okay with, and not making excuses for yourself.

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I'm not saying, okay, I'm just going to put off, procrastinate, make excuses,

00:30:20.248 --> 00:30:23.148
don't want to deal with this, and I'll do it tomorrow, and maybe it's their

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fault, and I'll just wait and see what, and no,

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it's just you taking the initiative to take advantage of the moment you're in,

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to live it for God by the power of the Holy Spirit to be what God has called

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us to be rather than postponing your life until retirement.

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And also, I know we've talked about a lot of things today and there's a lot

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more that we are gonna talk about.

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I think we're gonna do a little bit of a series here on relationships that might

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help you to get more anchored in who you are and who God is.

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But the beginning place, the place of beginning is to find the lie and get into

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the truth. Let the truth of Jesus Christ secure us.

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A big part of that is just the revelation of God's love for us.

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And we can just say, no, you know, God so loved the world that he gave his only

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begotten son and so forth.

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We know that love, God loves us. We know it intellectually. We know it from the Bible.

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But the revelation of it has to hit us.

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In other words, a revelation is something God just shows us. And we know it.

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When God shows it, you know it, that you're loved by God.

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His spirit is bearing witness with your spirit. Right. There it is.

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And so, but the thing is, in the context of growing up in God,

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we have another facet of that growing up in God.

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And that is the fact that God is training us to do warfare, to stand in heaven,

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to stand against the powers of darkness.

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And it's in that context of chastening and discipling and disciplining that

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many of us also get very screwed up on our relationship with God.

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We just think God is just, He's going to give us all this little lovely stuff,

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and He doesn't, and this thing doesn't happen, and now we've got to press in

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and pray and cry out and examine ourselves.

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And the devil says, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's because God's mad at you,

00:32:17.208 --> 00:32:21.048
because you're not perfect, because you're not keeping His law. So, there's a lot of.

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Tricky context to walking through this minefield of life.

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But the most important thing is to know the truth. The truth comes through the Word of God.

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And you know what? Another thing, if you're feeling a little ill and wobbly

00:32:34.966 --> 00:32:39.566
and, you know, sick and unsure of your life in any way, whether it's relationships

00:32:39.566 --> 00:32:45.486
or your health, whatever it might be, there is healing in the Word of God.

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The Word of God, the Word has vibration frequencies, and the Word of God,

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He spoke the word and the worlds came into existence.

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If you will start reading the word of God to yourself, to your children,

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to whoever, out loud, out loud, let those frequencies and vibrations and words

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that are coming out of your mouth turn back to heal your heart, heal your mind.

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So I would say if you want to try something new that doesn't cost you anything

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except a few minutes, you don't have to make a doctor's visit,

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you don't have to put out a lot of money, just open your Bible to the places

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where the Lord directs you.

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It might be Proverbs. It might be Psalms. It might be the Gospels.

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It might be the Epistles.

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And begin to just read it out loud. And you don't have to race to it.

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Just read it out loud and let the Lord reveal to you, because you're going to

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be healed through that Word of God, reading it out loud and asking them to the

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Lord, bringing those relationships with troublesome.

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Witchcraft, narcissistic, tangled up, bitter, vengeance, vengeful relationships

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to the Lord and pray for those people, forgive those people,

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release them from your judgment.

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Let the Lord God judge it. Bless those people with the deep and holy revelation of His love.

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Bless and don't curse. Those who are cursing you, bless them so they'll stop

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cursing you. Bless them with the deep and holy revelation of Jesus Christ.

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And let's begin and continue this again next week, the Lord willing.

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And in the meantime, you can check out the book and read ahead,

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doing Relationships God's Way on Amazon.com, or you can find it on our website, liferecovery.com.

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Let's do Relationships God's Way and see how your life changes.

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Amen and amen. Amen. Thank you, Jesus, for helping people today to receive these

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words and be encouraged, Lord God, not to be discouraged by what they see,

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but to be encouraged in the opportunities that still lie ahead of them to see

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your marvelous and miraculous transformations, even to begin in them and then

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to move out or into the relationships they're having with other people.

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Begin your transformation revelations in us today, Father God,

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and continue to teach us how to love the Lord our God with all our heart,

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soul, mind, and strength, and our neighbor as ourselves. Amen.

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Music.